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Secret to Finding Inner Peace at a Toxic Job




I was recently chatting with someone about the United Nations’ Day of Peace project and was asked, “How can someone find inner peace at a toxic job?” 

That’s a tough question. Not because the answer is complex. The answer is actually quite simple. However, it’s not the answer most people want to hear.

It Starts With You

Finding inner peace at a toxic job starts inside your head. You must stop the NST (negative self talk) that’s producing your anxiety and frustration. Most people say, “I can’t help it. Things happen at work that cause me to feel the way I do.” However, that’s not technically true. We all have the freedom to choose how we react to things that happen to us. If you see yourself as the victim, powerless against what’s happening, then you will react with feelings of anxiety and frustration. But, if you choose to take ownership of the situation, you can break free of the golden handcuffs at work and feel empowered instead. I realize that’s easier said than done. But, it can be done. And here’s how to do it:

Step 1: Acknowledge you do have options.

You can either A) decide to leave the company and start focusing on a new job search. Or, B) step back and try to understand why you are so upset by these actions and what you could do differently so you don’t feel held hostage by the situation. For example, if you have a boss who yells all the time, you can either decide it’s time to find a boss that doesn’t yell, or learn to ignore your boss and condition your body not to react to the yelling. The choice is yours.

Step 2: Take action.

This is where most people give up. To change what’s happening means you will need to make an extra effort. You have to build a gameplan, find resources, and invest time and mental energy into fixing the situation. Sadly, most people don’t want to do the work necessary. They’re hoping things will magically change or get better. Or, they procrastinate and say, “I’ll focus on it next week.”  Meanwhile, they stay miserable and let the effects deteriorate their ability to do good work.  Which can actually make things worse…

FYI – Doing Nothing Could Hurt Your Career Even More

As a career coach, I’ve worked with lots of people who didn’t address a toxic work environment, got depressed, become disengaged at work, and suddenly found themselves getting fired for poor performance. Now, they’re stuck trying to explain what went wrong to potential employers. Guess what? The employers blame the candidates for not taking ownership of a bad situation Employers don’t respect employees that aren’t accountable for their own professional happiness. Employers want to hire proactive, positive people. Not people who act helpless.

This Is What Taking Action Looks Like…

That being said, using the yelling boss example from above, let’s look at the actions you’d need to take:

  • To find a new job, you’d have to figure out what kind of job you want next, build your marketing materials (resume, cover letter, LinkedIn profile, interview prep, networking, etc.), and then use your free time outside the office to connect with employers and try to get hired.
  • To stay at the current job, you’d need to find some resources (books, videos, coaches, etc.), who could help you build your coping strategies and then invest time into practicing them in hopes you can reach a place where the yelling doesn’t bother you.

Either way, you’ve got work to do.

Tip: Your Chances Of Success Are Higher If…

Over the years, I’ve worked with thousands of people in bad career situations. Some find new jobs. Others fix the situation they are in. In both cases, one factor predicts how quickly they get results and how successful they are overall with finding inner peace. What is it? Their view of the future.

When you wake up each day and think your best days, weeks, months and years are ahead of you, it’s proven you will be more successful. So, if you are in a bad situation and you think it will never get better, then I guarantee that’s what will happen. You must, I repeat, you MUST, visualize a better, brighter future. That’s what will motivate you to do the work required to fix your situation. Nobody is going to do it for you. The sooner you realize it’s up to you, the better.

PS – Remember, you’re the sum of the five people you spend the most time with.

A final thought around your ability to find inner peace. We’re the career company we keep. If you aren’t surrounding yourself with positive people focused on the future and determined to find inner peace at work, then you will find it infinitely more challenging to reach your goal. It may be time to do an assessment of who you hang out with. Are you spending time with people who can encourage you and support you? Or, are the people you are hanging out with negative, hopeless and miserable? See how important career company is? If you don’t have the right career company, consider getting involved in a group or platform that can provide you with the right community of positive like-minded experts and peers. Don’t let the negative forces of those around you hold you back from the career happiness you want and deserve!



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Russian Gamer Brothers Are the Newest Hidden Billionaires




Russian-born Igor and Dmitry Bukhman are seeking growth to challenge Tencent and Activision.

Almost two decades ago, in a remote Russian city best known for its butter and linen, two brothers shared a bedroom and a Pentium 100-powered computer they used to code their first game.

Wall Street wants a piece of what they’ve built since.

Playrix has met with some of the biggest banks “and visited their skyscrapers,” said Dmitry Bukhman, 34, citing meetings with dealmakers at Goldman Sachs Group Inc. and Bank of America Corp. For now, though, “we are focused on growing the business.”

He and Igor Bukhman, 37, are the brains behind Playrix Holding Ltd., the creator of popular games similar to Candy Crush, including Fishdom and Gardenscapes, with more than 30 million daily users from China to the U.S. and annual sales of $1.2 billion, according to Newzoo. That makes the company one of the top 10 iOS and Google Play app developers by revenue, data from researcher AppAnnie show, putting Playrix in the same league as Tencent Holdings Ltd., NetEase Inc. and Activision Blizzard Inc.

Playrix Mobile Gaming Founders Dmitri And Igor Bukhman
Igor, left, and Dmitri Bukhman in Tel Aviv.Photographer: Corinna Kern/Bloomberg

Today, each brother is worth about $1.4 billion, according to the Bloomberg Billionaires Index. They haven’t previously appeared in a global wealth ranking.

Their road to riches started in 2001 in the city of Vologda, almost 300 miles (483 kilometers) north of Moscow, where Igor learned from a university professor that he could sell software online. He decided to try with Dmitry, who was still in high school at the time.

“We had no experience, no business understanding whatsoever—everything we could imagine was writing games,” Igor said.

The U.S. is Playrix’s biggest market, followed by China and Japan, the brothers said in a recent interview in Tel Aviv, where they spend some of their time. The two remotely manage about 1,100 employees, including personnel at its Ireland headquarters and developers in Russia, Ukraine and Belarus.

“For $3 billion we won’t sell”

The brothers’ first product was a game akin to Xonix in which players must use a cursor to open pieces of a hidden picture before being struck by flying balls. They wrote it during a summer break and generated $60 in the first month and later $100 a month, about half of the average salary in Vologda.

“We thought, ‘If one game makes $100, we can write several dozen of them and make a lot of money,”’ Igor said.

Their second game, featuring an animated character designed by an outsourced artist, brought in $200 a month. Their copycat of Tetris brought in $700 a month, but the brothers shut that down after learning that the game was protected by a license. In 2004, when the business reached $10,000 of monthly revenue, they registered a legal entity, rented space for an office in the basement of a book warehouse and hired other staff to accelerate production.

In the early years, they sold casual games through sites such as or, before moving to bigger platforms like Yahoo! and AOL. Then, within the past decade, games started moving first to Facebook and then smartphones. Many of them were available for free, with users paying only for certain in-game features.

Playrix makes most of its money from in-app purchases and the brothers mostly shun advertising, which detracts from the user experience. Ads generate less than 3 percent of revenue, Dmitry said.

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GardenscapesSource: Playrix

“It was a major challenge for us to switch to developing free-to-play games—that’s totally different DNA,” Dmitry said. “Free-to-play games aren’t games that you develop, release and move on to making another one. They are services that need to be supported constantly as users are waiting for regular updates.”

Playrix succeeded in this transition, achieving worldwide recognition over the past three years with Gardenscapes and its sequel, Homescapes, a new variety of match-3 puzzle in which a player completes rows of at least three elements to pass levels and progress through an animated storyline—in this case, helping a butler named Austin renovate a house with a garden.

“Austin engages in dialog with you, you help him to select ways to decorate the mansion, you dive into the history of this character and become related with him,” Dmitry said. “This genre variety we introduced—match-3 with meta game—became very successful, and other companies started copying us.”

“Playrix is certainly responsible for the first major innovation in the match-3 genre since King Digital Entertainment Plc seemingly had the market locked down with Candy Crush,” said Newzoo analyst Tom Wijman. “Playrix managed to add a layer of complexity and ‘meta game’ to the match-3 genre without driving away casual mobile players.”

The company employs several full-time script writers who work on Austin’s dialog, and it’s always improving the games, Dmitry said.

“It’s like apps, like Spotify—people can use them for years,” he said. “More and more people are getting accustomed that it’s perfectly normal. Why not pay $5 to get pleasure from playing a game on a smartphone rather than watching videos or listening to music?”

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HomescapesSource: Playrix

While Playrix hasn’t introduced a new title since 2017, the company recently acquired several gaming studios to expand into new genres, Igor said, declining to disclose which studios until it releases games developed by them later this year.

Successful titles attract whales. Activision Blizzard acquired King Digital in 2015 for $5.9 billion, and a year later Tencent led investors in an  $8.6 billion deal to acquire a majority stake in “Clash of Clans” maker Supercell Oy.

Could Playrix be next? In February, the Information reported that it could be sold for $3 billion, citing Chinese firms iDreamSky Technology Holdings and FunPlus Game Co. as potential suitors.

The brothers dismissed the report.

“For $3 billion we won’t sell,” Dmitry said with a smile, while acknowledging that Playrix had been discussing strategic options as recently as last year, noting its meetings with Wall Street banks.

Their goal, for now, is to become a “top-tier gaming company,” that rivals Activision Blizzard and Electronic Arts in the West, and NetEase Inc. and Tencent in China, Igor said.

“We want to grow as big as they are, using developer talent from our region—the former USSR and Eastern Europe,” he said.

There’s no magic number that would compel the Bukhmans to sell the company, because they say money is secondary to doing what they love.

“Some may think that when you have a lot of money, everything becomes different and more interesting, you start doing different things,” Dmitry said. “But no. We just keep working.”

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KPMG LLP plans to add 110 jobs over the next five years in a new Stamford office.

The audit, tax and advisory firm recently signed a long-term lease and plans to renovate space in the former UBS building at 677 Washington Boulevard, which it expects to occupy next spring. KPMG has had a presence in Stamford for nearly 40 years, where it currently employs 315 professionals at its location at 3001 Summer St. The firm’s Hartford office has 231 employees.

“KPMG’s commitment to growing its operations and creating jobs in Connecticut is a testament to our top-notch workforce and unbeatable quality of life,” Gov. Dannel Malloy said. “It is an encouraging sign that world-class companies are continually choosing to set up or expand operations in our state.”

The Connecticut Department of Economic and Community Development is supporting the business expansion in Stamford with a $3 million grant in arrears for leasehold improvements, equipment and other project-related costs. Portions of the grant will be released when certain job-creation milestones are met.

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The 7 most in-demand tech jobs for 2018

CIO | Jun 6, 2018

From data scientists to data security pros, the battle for the best in IT talent will wage on next year. Here’s what to look for when you’re hiring for the 7 most in-demand jobs for 2018 — and how much you should offer based on experience.





Source: Computer World

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